"When one door of happiness closes, another opens;
but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."
Helen Keller

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Bye-Bye Kindergarten~~~Hello 1st Grade!

Today was the last day of school for Brycen.  He is officially a 1st grader now!!  Where has the time gone?  Can't believe he has completed 3 years of school already and will be turning 6 in two months! 

Here is one last picture of him coming home on the school bus.  This is one part of school he is definitely going to miss over the next 3 months...never thought I'd be saying that a year ago!  Next year he will not only be riding the bus home a couple days per week, but also will be riding to school each day! 


So proud of my big boy being a 1st grader now!

Thursday, May 10, 2012

IEP = Big Plans for Brycen

We gathered with Brycen's educational team a few weeks ago for his annual IEP and walked away with a brand new plan for our little buddy.  I didn't update immediately because we still had a few things to work out in the plan before it was finalized and wanted to be able to post about all of it at one time.  These are the main points that will interest most of those familiar with Brycen and his services.



1.  Brycen is progressing far faster than we could ever imagine.  This meeting reiterated how he is thriving being in the general ed classroom for part of the day with a 1:1 associate.  One line that stands out from his written IEP is "Brycen is learning some of the general education content at an age-expected pace.  Once he learns something, he is holding onto it."  So this is great news, right?!  Of course.  The next line is "His inability to attend to task and follow teacher direction will impact his ability to show what he knows.  An adult to help with keeping him on-task, restating directions, and to interpret his communication attempts will be necessary for Bryen to experience success in general education content."  So it's not what he is learning in gen ed that is a problem for him, but how he is learning it and how much help he needs to pay attention to learn it. 

2.  His communication continues to be a big area of concern.  We all know communication is a huge factor with all children on the spectrum...whether than can verbalize or not.  In Brycen's case, he is unable to verbalize but we know it's in there...just need to give him the tools like his "talker" and the I-Pad at school so he can communicate with us more and show what he knows.  Brycen will continue to receive speech therapy at school 40 minutes per week in addition to his time with the special education teacher and associates (who of course are constantly reiterating communication with him).

3.  He has come a LONG way with his writing skills.  While he needs complete assistance to come up with topics to "journal" about and typically needs prompts to answer questions using his "talker," he has the ability to write out every letter of the alphabet capital and lower case...with some modeling need for a few of the letters to get them correct.  He is struggling with writing within certain lines, spaces, etc...so he will continue with Occupational Therapy at school 120 minutes per month to finetune these skills using some special paper and tools. 

4.  Since his progression in the educational aspect is holding steady and showing no signs of regression over breaks, he does not qualify for the typical extended school year program.  BUT, the entire team agrees that he is most definitely at risk for regressing in the areas of routine and socialization with peers.  The team has worked out a plan to have him participate with a 1:1 associate this summer for 7 weeks, up to 6 hours per week, at the local YMCA program where he can regularly practice his socializing and have a routine that is similar to that of the school environment.  We are very lucky in that one of his regular associates is willing and able to do this so we know he will be in good hands and he will understand the transition better with her help.

5.  Brycen will participate in all grade-school testing like the other 1st graders (oh my goodness, my son is going to be in 1ST GRADE!!) with some exceptions to having no time limit and having an adult be able to assist him with filling in the answers after he comes up with them, etc.  Of course there are some things they are unable to do due to educational laws like read certain questions to him in the reading area of testing, but they will accomodate him as much as possible to align with his special needs.

6.  Lastly, this is what we might consider the biggest change of all for him.  It was agreed by the team that he is doing so well during a few areas of the day with participating and following directions that there will be times throughout the day where he will NOT need a 1:1 associate assigned to him.  These times will include PE, music class, and recess time...as well as some time here and there in the general ed classroom that doesn't involve specific learning times.  The day after the IEP in April, the team immediately implemented this part of the plan with phasing out the associate during these times.  Doing this the last few weeks of school will give the team time to determine if it will work out ok and spot any kinks in the plan.  To us, this is a huge step towards his independence!!  It shows just how much he has progressed in a setting with his peers and it also shows just how hard the associates/teachers have worked to get him to this point in these areas after just 9 months of school.  So far it seems to be going well...as these are 3 of the school setting he very much enjoys! 

So as you can see, there have been some major changes in his plan that mostly stem from how much progress he has shown over the last 9 months.  He enjoys school, enjoys his peers in kindergarten, as well as enjoys his friends in his special education room as well.  It seems like all of his teachers and associates also enjoy working with him.  Though we know he can be naughty just like any other 5/6 year old boy, he has so much determination to learn and have fun!  We are so proud of his achievements this year and are in awe of just how far he has come in the last 3 years since his initial diagnosis.  Thank you to all of those team members who have had a part in his life and pushed him to be the best he can be!  He doesn't like to be pushed outside of his comfort zone at first, but as we can see it is paying off in so many ways.



Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Brycen is officially...

POTTY TRAINED!!! 

We waited to share the big news until it had been an official month of peeing on the potty.  Unfortunately he is not completely trained with his bowels yet...he'll go a few days with having accidents and then have a few really consistent days of using the toilet, then backtrack again.  But we choose to look on the good side and see how far he has come in just a couple months! 

The first few days of extensive training were rough for all of us, but it paid off.  We still have him wear a pull-up underneath his underwear when going to school or away from the house just in case, but at home he only wears underwear. 

Even after a month, the excitement has not worn off of watching him run into the bathroom, complete his duty, wash his hands all with NO PROMPTS before coming back to play.  He has gotten into a good routine of at least trying before we leave the house, as well as going after waking in the morning and before bedtime.  He was even staying dry at night for so long that we decided to rid of the overnight pull-ups as well!!  Now when he wakes up in the middle of the night, he either goes into the bathroom right away or after a prompt from us.  I can't remember the last time he wet during the night in his pull-up! 

Not only are we saving money on the overnight pull-ups, but I have been able to cancel his last two shipments of day time pull-ups from the company that was delivering/billing them to Medicaid AND our garbage is so much lighter!! 

So to all of those parents who are in my "old" shoes just a couple months ago, it CAN happen!  We went from having a child who wouldn't even sit on the potty, screamed when we made him, to not even having to prompt him to go during the day because he really gets it.  Your child can do it too...just find the right time and right environment and set him or her up for success!

Monday, April 30, 2012

Autism Awareness All Year

Today is the last day of Autism Awareness Month 2012...but as you all know, Autism doesn't end here for us.  Autism Awareness is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year in our house.

I had the privilege of going into both Brycen and Aubree's classrooms to read a story to the children about Autism and to discuss not only Autism but other disabilities.  Those kids were amazing with the questions they asked and the comments they made.  My belief is that children are born to accept everybody.  They don't know any differently unless someone (typically an adult or older child in their life) encourages them to feel and think differently.  So many parents place pressure on the school or other places to teach their children about acceptance of others who are different...but awareness and acceptance start at home.  Though I loved the discussion I had with the kindergarteners last Thursday, I can guarantee that 30 minutes of amazing questions and comments cannot trump any beliefs they are being taught at home.  If their parents are not accepting of those with disabilities, and they went home and told them "We read about Autism today", their parent may make a rude comment that just trumped everything I talked to them about earlier.  Whether it's a phrase or derogatory word a parent or other significant person in a child's life says, or just the actions they take (steering their cart away from someone in a wheelchair at the grocery store or making a rude gesture to that child screaming on the floor), this is how our children learn.

So if there is one thing I want you to take away from Autism Awareness month this year, it is to set an example through your words and your actions for your children and other children that you may have influence on.  Teach them that people with disabilities may look or act a little differently, but that does not mean they are any less of a human than the person without a disability.  It starts with you!  Make this world a better place for our children in the future and promote awareness and acceptance in your own home every day of the year!

Autism and Our Family

"Autism"----It's one word that can change the life of a child and family in so many ways. Autism Spectrum Disorders are being diagnosed at a rate of 1 in 68 children currently. If you do not already know someone that has been diagnosed, the statistics say it won't be long before you do.

Our son developed typically until around the time he turned 2 years old. We heard words...we saw him play with other kids...we watched as he played with his toys appropriately...we made eye contact with him...overall we understood his wants and needs. In a matter of a few months, that was all taken away from him. He began lining up toys, lost all of his words and signs except for one word "ball", ignored other kids, could not sleep through the night, lost eye contact and the ability to follow directions, and he had no way of letting us know what he wanted or how he felt. It was heartbreaking to see something happening to our child that we couldn't stop!

Brycen began receiving home therapy 1-2 times per month for about 6 months before we realized it wasn't just developmental delays. We knew it was Autism...we just didn't want to say it outloud to anyone. He was officially diagnosed with Autism (classic form and regressive), as well as Mental Retardation in August 2009 by the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics.

We continue to learn as we make our way through this journey with Brycen and we will continue to share this journey with you on this blog! The blog has been a great therapy for us to be able to vent our frustrations and struggles with accepting that we have a child with special needs, while sharing how blessed we are to have a child teach us what life truly means. It has also been a great way to inform others of his progress and changes over the last couple of years.

Thank you for your support of Brycen and our family! We hope you are able to learn something through this blog no matter if you are a parent of a child with special needs or a neurotypical child, a teacher or therapist, a family member, or just someone that is interested in the journey that a family goes on as they learn their child is battling a life-long disorder.