"When one door of happiness closes, another opens;
but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."
Helen Keller

Friday, January 22, 2010

"Welcome to the Community"

Every week I get emails from the Autism Speaks group and they frequently include stories written by others who are also experiencing a child or other family member on the spectrum. This story tugs at my heart as I remember feeling the same way not too long ago...the emotions are still so fresh. Please read this story and try to put yourself in this parent's shoes...and then when you are out in the community and see a child that is being "naughty" or "needs a spanking" (these are personal things I have heard from a couple at Wal-mart a few months ago with Brycen), remember there may be more to the story. Parents of children with disabilities, as well as adults with disabilities, should not have to stay home or only go to groups that are specific for children like their own just because they feel they or their child may be judged. I am not saying that everybody is this way, but in my years of working with children and adults that "act" or "look" a little "differently" than I do, I have watched people treat them in a not-so-nice way and I think it is absolutely horrible that some people cannot accept that others are different and most of the time, they do not choose to be. So, please, read this story and think of all the parents out there in this world that feel this way. Oh, and I actually wish there was a group in Storm Lake where we could get our children with disabilities together on a regular basis, because I really feel Brycen can learn a lot from what other children are experiencing!
http://www.autismspeaks.org/community/ownwords/intheirownwords_butler.php

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Autism and Our Family

"Autism"----It's one word that can change the life of a child and family in so many ways. Autism Spectrum Disorders are being diagnosed at a rate of 1 in 68 children currently. If you do not already know someone that has been diagnosed, the statistics say it won't be long before you do.

Our son developed typically until around the time he turned 2 years old. We heard words...we saw him play with other kids...we watched as he played with his toys appropriately...we made eye contact with him...overall we understood his wants and needs. In a matter of a few months, that was all taken away from him. He began lining up toys, lost all of his words and signs except for one word "ball", ignored other kids, could not sleep through the night, lost eye contact and the ability to follow directions, and he had no way of letting us know what he wanted or how he felt. It was heartbreaking to see something happening to our child that we couldn't stop!

Brycen began receiving home therapy 1-2 times per month for about 6 months before we realized it wasn't just developmental delays. We knew it was Autism...we just didn't want to say it outloud to anyone. He was officially diagnosed with Autism (classic form and regressive), as well as Mental Retardation in August 2009 by the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics.

We continue to learn as we make our way through this journey with Brycen and we will continue to share this journey with you on this blog! The blog has been a great therapy for us to be able to vent our frustrations and struggles with accepting that we have a child with special needs, while sharing how blessed we are to have a child teach us what life truly means. It has also been a great way to inform others of his progress and changes over the last couple of years.

Thank you for your support of Brycen and our family! We hope you are able to learn something through this blog no matter if you are a parent of a child with special needs or a neurotypical child, a teacher or therapist, a family member, or just someone that is interested in the journey that a family goes on as they learn their child is battling a life-long disorder.