"When one door of happiness closes, another opens;
but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."
Helen Keller

Friday, March 5, 2010

Giving all the credit to Daddy for this one!

We all know Brycen has sleep issues...falling asleep, staying asleep, getting enough sleep. Unfortunately for Daddy, he gets the brunt of the sleepless nights with Brycen and trust me, he gets plenty of them. Daddy can back me up in saying, he is soooo jealous of those people that actually have children that sleep through the night. I frequently hear people talking about how tired they are because their child is teething and has been waking up during the night for a couple of weeks...and then I think to myself "talk to my husband, he'll tell you what 3 1/2 years is like." Daddy does this every night (except when Grandma takes over back in Evansdale!) and frequently on nights where he has to work a 12 hour shift the next day at 5 or 6am!
So, until recently we have had to rock Brycen to sleep each night. His brain just doesn't have that capacity to turn itself off as easy as ours and this is where the tbsp of liquid Melatonin he gets every night helps! When I was gone for meetings a couple nights several weeks ago, Daddy took it upon himself to start working with Brycen to fall asleep on his own in his own bed. Daddy implemented the rock a little, make him walk to bed himself even if he whines and cries, and tuck him in, while ignoring the whining and crying and just walk away. AND IT WORKED! I have to say though, that Daddy knows Mommy all too well, and pretty much gave Mommy a talking to saying that she better not mess with this on the nights he closes. So, I have kept my word and followed through with Daddy's hard work. Surprise, surprise...the whining and crying have stopped and even more of a surprise...it actually seems like Brycen LIKES to go back to his bed like a "big boy" and get tucked in while he's still awake.
So, praise Daddy, for helping Brycen accomplish one more big thing on the list!

2 comments:

  1. Wow Melissa.. Thats incredible. Thanks for sharing.
    Viki

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  2. Way to go Mike! You two make a great team! ~Heather

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Autism and Our Family

"Autism"----It's one word that can change the life of a child and family in so many ways. Autism Spectrum Disorders are being diagnosed at a rate of 1 in 68 children currently. If you do not already know someone that has been diagnosed, the statistics say it won't be long before you do.

Our son developed typically until around the time he turned 2 years old. We heard words...we saw him play with other kids...we watched as he played with his toys appropriately...we made eye contact with him...overall we understood his wants and needs. In a matter of a few months, that was all taken away from him. He began lining up toys, lost all of his words and signs except for one word "ball", ignored other kids, could not sleep through the night, lost eye contact and the ability to follow directions, and he had no way of letting us know what he wanted or how he felt. It was heartbreaking to see something happening to our child that we couldn't stop!

Brycen began receiving home therapy 1-2 times per month for about 6 months before we realized it wasn't just developmental delays. We knew it was Autism...we just didn't want to say it outloud to anyone. He was officially diagnosed with Autism (classic form and regressive), as well as Mental Retardation in August 2009 by the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics.

We continue to learn as we make our way through this journey with Brycen and we will continue to share this journey with you on this blog! The blog has been a great therapy for us to be able to vent our frustrations and struggles with accepting that we have a child with special needs, while sharing how blessed we are to have a child teach us what life truly means. It has also been a great way to inform others of his progress and changes over the last couple of years.

Thank you for your support of Brycen and our family! We hope you are able to learn something through this blog no matter if you are a parent of a child with special needs or a neurotypical child, a teacher or therapist, a family member, or just someone that is interested in the journey that a family goes on as they learn their child is battling a life-long disorder.